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Dating Basics - Likes Versus Dislikes
In order for you to find a
suitable person/companion you will need to know what
qualities you
dislike in a person. Write these qualities down and keep them in mind
while searching for possible dating companions.
Dislikes are just as important, or maybe even more important than
likes. Obviously we all have to make compromises now and then, but if
we start away by condoning things, which we genuinely dislike, it is
going to effect the relationship at some stage.
A lot of people make the common mistake
when they dating as they put up
their best behaviour, which is normal and they try to be adjusting and
accommodating which is NOT a very good idea. At a certain point you
will not want to do what the other person wants and this is where the
adjusting and accommodating behaviour will change.
An important point that they tend to over look is that they are not
going to be going on a camping trip with this person that they are
trying to impress; they are going to be living the rest of their lives
with the person.
You should stick to things that you are very particular about. And if
you have any thoughts that you will be able to mould the person out of
his or her offending habits at a later date, forget it – it often never
happens.
The moment you start trying to mould the person out of his or her
habits, whatever they may be, the word becomes ‘nagging’ and if at all
the person does drop the habit, he or she will love you less for it.
Nagging and constant harassment can destroy the relationship and cause
huge problems.
It really doesn’t work that way. So it’s best to have a clear idea
about qualities and habits that you genuinely dislike in a person and
steer clear of the people who have the unwanted
habits/qualities.
Once you have a fairly clear idea about your likes and dislikes you are
in a better position to make the right choice. And considering the
multitude of people out there, you do not have to worry or be over
anxious that you just might not find any one at all. He or she is out
there, and if you are doing what you are doing right, by searching for
the right person you will be able to succeed and eventaully grow your
relationship.
Another thing that you could do is that you could just let nature take
its course. There is a lot of chemistry involved in the selection of
partner so maybe the best thing we could do is lend nature lend a
helping
hand.
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